Today, my step dad Clarke showed me a letter to the editor he wrote that made it in the Chronicle yesterday (he's the first one). I thought it was a great letter and was really proud of him. It's hard not to be severe with feelings, and so although Clarke's letter may be strong and hurt some people's feelings, I respect how heartfelt he was, and agree with a lot of what he says.
Tonight I'm going to my friend Jen's wedding to her wife Brenda (they were already married privately and are now having a ceremony/celebration with friends and family). I got to know Jen at Mills (we were both in the art program together) and think that she is a wonderful person. She was always there to listen to me all the times I was frustrated and was always so positive and upbeat. I can't imagine what it would be like for someone to tell me I couldn't get married or that if I did get married it was somehow not as valid as someone else's.
What should define marriage is how much you love someone and how much you are devoted and committed to maintaining a loving and healthy relationship. There are hundreds of thousands of heterosexual couples who cheat on their spouses, abuse their spouses (both physically and emotionally), lie to their spouses, and countless other misdeeds. To me, if we should question anything, those are the marriages we should address.
The bottom line though is that whether or not someone is gay, it doesn't have any effect on any other person. So whether you believe in their lifestyle or not shouldn't really be an issue, because their life doesn't impede on yours. If you believe that it's a sin or anything else, it isn't a decision/rule/feeling you should be imposing on other people.
I wish Jen and Brenda all the happiness they could possibly hope for, and in my heart I believe their marriage to be just as equal to everyone else's, because really, I thought our country already ruled that "separate but equal" wasn't really equal.
If I was to do it again I think I would get a circular plate because the corners were REALLY hard (notice all the glue gobs), it's a little big (4" diameter was the smallest I could find), and I would make it taller, but each box was $9! (and I used up two). All in all though, I think it's pretty cool, and now Chris has a (very) sturdy pencil holder.
Our garden has gotten quite big now! It's really nice having something done, and something that we can enjoy so much. I'm so glad we built it, it looks great, and everything tastes so yummy!!!
(Chris being real photogenic :) )
My dad came over to help out in the morning while Chris was at work doing some electrical for the alumni house. He replaced two electrical boxes in the office so that we have power and phone/internet properly wired now.(we got this COLORFUL dresser for free. It fits the wall in the office under the window perfectly and fits all of our paper, phone books, pens, pencils, blah blah blah great. I WILL be refinishing it soon though, don't worry :) )
When Chris got home we had some lunch and then ripped out the rotting, VERY dangerous deck out back.
When we finished, my dad wasn't leaving for another two hours or so, so we fugured what the hell, let's start demo-ing the bathroom
It was a weekend of a lot of hard work, but we got a lot done, so it was great! Hopefully we get the drywall lift in the next few days and we'll work on putting it up in the kitchen and get the kitchen door to the side yard replaced too!
Pretty soon after moving in we took out the door, Chris starting reframing it correctly, and we put up a piece of plywood until we got a proper door.
After a lot of hard work yesterday we finally got the door installed!!!!! There are some finishing things we need to do (one more coat of paint on the outside, paint on the inside, drywall the exposed areas around it, wire the electricity for foyer and outside light, and get an outside light), but at least we have a door now!!! For almost 5 months we've gone in and out the side door off the kitchen. I'm very excited we have a proper front door now, and I'm sure our neighbors are too :)
We'll eventually be painting the house back to the original color: white. I've also thought we should paint the trim gray because the side and front gates are cast iron and I thought our (eventual) front yard garden would really pop against a clean color palette. We shall see what happens when we begin THAT task.
Yesterday and today in the mail we got our kitchen hardware!!! We got the knobs yesterday and the bin pulls today. Because all the orginal door knobs in the house are glass, I thought it would fit to have glass knobs and bin pulls. I LOVE the bin pulls. I think they will look great on our white painted cabinets.
Project 2 - Urban/Suburban (slide film)
Chris and my life has become all about the house, especially now that I'm done with school (yay!!!). So, I thought it might be a fun idea to have a blog about our progress on the house. A lot of time when people ask how things are going with the house my stories are preceeded by a long sigh. It's not that I don't like talking about it (because I do, I LOVE our house) but the process of working on it has been very tiring thus far, so sometimes talking about it can cause me to relive those tiring memories.
Now, with the blog, hopefully I can keep everyone up do date with what is going on, what projects we are doing, and how far along we're moving. I'm not sure how good I'm going to be at this yet, so wish me luck!