Oh Yes, and Then There's This

Chris and I are doing what billions have done before us: we're making a human being

That's right, we're pregnant! And we're VERY excited, hooray!!!!

I'm almost 14 weeks along. So if you're doing your calculations, you are correct, I was pregnant while on the renovation roadtrip. 8-10 weeks along in fact. The hardest thing about it was actually keeping my big mouth shut because I wanted to tell everyone, but I was able to hold myself together. Chris is excellent at keeping a poker face, but I give Christmas presents in August because I'm too damn excited so you can imagine the problems I had trying to keep it together! :)

I may or may not have slept on our luggage and air compressor in the backseat at 8 weeks, which was actually the most comfortable place in the car. Baby is very healthy, so obviously I will recommend this as an excellent sleeping position while pregnant

Overall though I have had a pretty lucky pregnancy so far. I went through maybe 2 weeks of light morning sickness. Just some simple nausea, but nothing too bad, and no ejection, so I feel very lucky. I was a bit tired on the trip, but I was able to fight it off with the excitement of being on the trip, so that's good. The exhaustion has really set in now however and I can barely make it to 9pm, ha! I'm still trying to stay active and go to the gym about 4 days a week. No running allowed still (from my broken tibia this summer, grrrrr, it takes a long time to heal), but I'm on the elliptical, bike, rowing machine, stair machine and I really need to start swimming again. But let's keep it real also: one thing that's started lately EVERY NIGHT that used to only be sporadic: the worst gas ever. Seriously, Cashew (our nickname for it) wants my belly to explode into one big huge gas bubble every single night.

I will answer your 2 curious questions that many people have asked:

1) yes, it was planned. Chris and I were both always on the fence about kids, him a lot more so than me. In fact, about 2 years ago (when we were tiling our bathroom actually) he definitively said he didn't want kids and I really had to think about what that meant. I love Chris - would I not have kids too? Would we break up? As I thought about it more and more I realized that I didn't want to break up just so that I could have kids, I really wanted to have a kid with him. I just value him as a person so much and think he is awesome and would make a wonderful human being and I wanted to make someone with him. So we talked about it for the next year and a half or so - did we really want to do it? Would it cramp our style? Are we selfish assholes? You know, all those questions :) And we came to the conclusion that we did want to do it. And lo and behold the first month we tried, it worked. It was actually a bit shocking that it happened so fast. But it was time to hop on the baby train!

And 2) we are still not getting married. Chris and I have been together 7 1/2 years. I know he loves me, he knows I love him. We're very happy how we are and we see no reason to change that. Sure, we may be damned to hell or whatever, but it works for us

It's been a lot of fun telling everyone, mostly because they are SO SHOCKED. And getting to do something that makes our families so collectively happy is pretty awesome. There have been lots of tears (of happiness. I hope ;), lots of hugs, lots of smiles and lots of excitement. It's pretty awesome to think that I'm growing a little person in my belly and already so many people love it.

So that's the news, Cashew on the way! Just another construction project, right? :)


Jessica said...


Deb said...

HOORAY!!!! That is so exciting :)

And now I'm VERY glad you didn't stay in the house with nasty floor refinishing fumes.

So excited for you :) And I think I speak for many people when I say - so very jealous that you didn't get to experience the joys of vomiting every half an hour for several months like some of us did.
Maybe next time ;)

Feral Turtle said...

Congratulations!! The most important project you have done so far! Cheers.

LifeBegins@Thirty said...

OMG Congratulations!!! My husband and I were similar (okay, we were married but we also were on the fence about having kids) and we now have a 5 month old.

Best thing ever. No regrets. Plus you guys can take comfort in the fact that you really truly thought about it and made a real decision to have this little cashew!!

All the best,


My cousin is pregnant?! AWESOME! Youre gonna be a GREAT mom and I'm sure Chris will make a great dad too. How exciting to be pregnant together :) Glad the pregnancy is treating you well! maybe its a boy?? We'll have to get together once we have huge bellies and take a bunch of ridiculous pictures to laugh at later. Love ya and hope to see you soon! Thanksgiving??

E said...

Congratulations! I just made our same announcement recently too! I'm almost 10 weeks, and we're similarly on the "eventually possibly getting married...plenty down the road." Whatever works, right? I wish you all the luck, health, and happiness!

em said...

Welcome to unmarried parent hell, it is actually quite nice here :) We are so excited for you guys and cannot wait to see you as parents! (Does Chris know he will now actually have to hold a baby?!?!) But more importantly does Cashew know his baseball alliance and does Chris have his/her first movie lined up??

Heather said...

Now that you're exhausted all the time you have the energy of a normal person! I'm so excited for you both!

meryl rose said...


And Emily HOW COULD I LEAVE THAT OUT: of COURSE Cashew will be an A's fan (and NO ORANGE AND BLACK IS ALLOWED IN THE HOUSE). I have already figured out when the first game will be - Opening Day 2014 (me and my dad go every year together) and it will be a 9ers fan (don't tell my dad. Or my grandpa). I'm not really a Raiders fan, and Chris is the 9er fan, so A's and 9ers it is! :)

aptpupil said...

the movie issue is tough. i'm not going to be so strict as to specify a batting order or certain movie as needing to be first, but generally speaking there will be an introduction to the medium through things like: looney tunes and disney films to start. followed by tom and jerry and tex avery animation (these tend to be more violent, though good natured). as far as live action goes it'll be a healthy diet of marx brothers, charlie chaplin, and buster keaton. followed by three stooges and laurel and hardy.
by the time it's 5 or 6 it'll be time for more serious live action stuff with darker themes like wizard of oz, exorcist and dawn of the dead. haha.

Sara @ Russet Street Reno said...

I'm so happy to see this announcement went live, now I can grill you about pregnancy stuff in your comments! Oh, and I have to say that I also had really bad gas and the WORST sweating problem almost my entire pregnancy. I didn't need a maternity coat because I just roasted my way through winter. Add to that the dry eyes, aversion to most foods (except sweets) and lack of booze, and that shit was redonk. I hope you will share some belly pics because I think pregnant chicks are so cute, I know you will be. Love you two, congrats again! ps - we also got pregnant the first month we tried, our men have some great sperm! HA

Gene Anderson said...

Congrats! That's exciting news!

meryl rose said...

Thanks again everyone!!!

And I will definitely post a belly photo soon Sara! Right now it just looks like I ate too much food :) And yes, I think the sweating may be beginning for me: today when I was getting my haircut I felt like I was in a SAUNA, omg so embarrassing :)

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