You may be slightly confused - and don't worry, some of our family was too - but we decided to get legally married on 4/26 for two reasons 1) we didn't want to steal Zoe's thunder every year with our official wedding anniversary the day after her birthday and 2) our current anniversary is 4/26 and we're too lazy to have to remember a new date to celebrate (Chris and I both have a horrible habit of forgetting our anniversary almost every year. Literally, yes, it happens over and over again by both of us).
We emailed our parents and siblings a couple weeks ago and told them the quick change of plans - we would be getting legally married on 4/26, but we were still going to have the big shibang 6/7 with all our friends and family and combine it with Zoe's birthday complete with ceremony, walk down the aisle, etc. Our family was excited and some had to rearrange their schedules (my awesome San Diego living brother and sister-in-law flew up just for the day), but they made it an evening to remember for us.
We kept it super low-key (yes, I wore a gray hoodie and jeans) and we alternated holding carrot chewing Zoe
My brother and dad walked me down the "aisle" while I hummed "here comes the bride"
|yes, there is a toilet in the background. We keep it classy around here people.|
My wonderful step dad married us and gave the best wedding marriage speech thing (what do you call what the "minster" [or in our case my athiest lawyer step dad, obviously we're very traditional] says?). It was so perfectly unromantically romantic. I was not emotional at all until CBH said that we weren't getting married for any other reason than it didn't really matter. I know that might sound weird to people, but it was so perfect for us. I got tears in my eyes and tried to keep my shit together :)
I told CBH he had to keep it to a minute in length, and it was really only about 90 seconds, so it was absolutely perfect. We exchanged rings...
And Zoe thought the whole thing was fabulous, she just kept clapping and smiling at our family watching us
Then of course we kissed, awwwwwwww :)
And of course we had to kiss Zoe
And the last item on the agenda? Going out to eat, of course! We went to a restaurant in Oakland called Lake Chalet, which is right on Lake Merritt, which seemed perfect because we took all my parental units there last October for my belated birthday dinner where we told them we were pregnant with Zoe :)
|my brother and his wife had to catch their flight so they didn't make dinner and we took this right before we left and Chris' sister had already made her exit, should have taken it earlier!|
It really was a fabulous little evening. It was really nice that it was super intimate and done just how we wanted it. And it will of course be completely fabulous to do it over again with our friends and family in a very celebratory way. I am thankful to have the family that I was born into, and now my family that I have chosen to create. I am really so fortunate, thankful, loved and supported by everyone, and that is a fantastic thing. Happy Monday you fine folks!